Let me be clear that failure is something that belongs to life and whether it is private or business, it is learning processes. No more and no less. If you do not fail, you also learn nothing is my position. I regularly fail and that is good, because then I learned something again. I have also had several times that the sheet has been pulled over my ears. Business failure is apparently not allowed in the Netherlands. And if you look across the lake, America. Then it is good if you fail and continue with your life.
You develop
Sometimes it comes with trial and error. Your life is one large continuous learning process. And that is also your development. In my case, I had to go bankrupt almost 4 times and suffer another 6 times from the mistakes I made. I only wanted to do business in my development. There was also a time that I thought everyone could go into the tree, because I knew it. Well, I've come back from that. It is all part of the development and whether you pick up the mistakes and learn from them. I do not know if I learned anything, but I can name one thing. I want to do something very big or very small. Both do not work, because you have to do something about yourself, your passion. I started in 1998 with the development of internet radio. The passion was there, but no one believed in me and supported me. I felt abandoned. And made mistake on error. I really blamed everyone for my failure. Only in that time I never asked anyone and I did it all myself.
Make choices
We all make choices in our lives and sometimes you have the misfortune that you have made a wrong choice for yourself, but is that also the case? Often the choice is part of your daily life and almost routine. And sometimes choices go wrong. In my view, every mistake is a learning moment. You learn how not to do it. My choices were often quite thought through. An idea, yes, fun! I learned by parking and later to see if I like it so much. The choice I made last (yes sometimes it still happens) is special. I wanted to have a kind of one men show. And what do I buy, a matching domain name! Just like I do not do enough. It is my search for focus and sometimes I just fly out of the corner, which puts other things in jeopardy. I have had ideas, but making choices is and remains a point of attention. Also writing this blog is a point of attention. Do I write or do I not write? The regularity has been out lately, because it did not want to go the way I wanted it. It demilitates very much and to start up again is quite difficult. Actually, I just had to continue continuously. Only then is the chance that it will stand up, even if I like to write. It is a choice I make and I do not know what is right or wrong about my future, but I do want a future in which I grow in all areas such as financial and personal. Making choices is not that easy, but make them, because you always grow.
To fail
Wrong choices often fail, but failure is a wrong word. Because because of that there are people who have a fear of failure, afraid to do something wrong. I also have a bit of trouble with it. See all the monkeys and bears on the road that has not yet been laid out. Our brain is so programmed from prehistoric times, but also by school and our environment. Texts like "would you do that" or "you can not do that" or "do a normal man!" or "Just look for a job". A few that I get hurled to my head like that, unsolicited. That is the basis of failure. I want to hear "you're doing a good job!" or "cool that you're going to do it" or "if I can help you then I like it". Here too I can make a list. We are constantly put in a situation that gives failure. And then it is important that you find the right people. I have difficulty with that myself. Not to contact them, but to ask for help. Not that difficult, but I also do not want to fail before their eyes if they put a lot of time and energy into it. For me this is also a thing, because because it is often done in the past, I often do not dare to ask for real help. I sometimes even get it offered and I do not let anything hear or knock it off. Just because I do not want to disappoint people. Actually weird for someone who wants a lot.
A very nice example
As a 5 year old boy I wanted to own a private island (known for many). It always came back and I was looking for someone who lived and searched in Greece. You have to imagine that I made "drawings" of my island and that always had a few.
A very nice example
As a 5 year old boy I wanted to own a private island (known for many). It always came back and I was looking for someone who lived and searched in Greece. You have to imagine that I made "drawings" of my island and that always had a horse's head. I was strolling along the Greek coast and what did I find to my surprise? The island from which I dreamed and signed since I was five. And now it's in the fridge because I do not get financing around in my way and do not attract the right people. Indeed, 38 million euros of pre-financing is needed. I have found Dutch people in Greece who can really help me, but do not dare to ask them. Everything is round, but I put it in the fridge. The dream is now on a soft spot and can thus ignite again. And do not do anything with it right now. With this example I want to indicate that failure and a learning process are very close together.
I hope to be able to read this once and to say that I have succeeded in my project and that failure has been a thing of the past. And that I do not even understand this way of thinking, because then I have only taken a real step from failing to growing.
Thank you for reading!
Greetings and hug, Jouke
