By making myself vulnerable and saying that I am more or less an open book, this is a thing of the past. You are going to tell about how much is earned and I had to think about it. The choice itself is made quickly, but I have other people that I have to take into account. So I have to be somewhat superficial in this and if I mention numbers they are fictional and / or rounded. Furthermore, it is not that interesting what the real amounts are.
Maybe nice to know
Just to get home with the door ... No, I don't earn more than my wife (money). In fact, I earn little to nothing at the time of writing. I am a small self-employed person who does not have to pay VAT. And so my invoices also look a little different than the standard invoice. Although I am an entrepreneur, I do not earn much. More and part of that is due to the fact that I am not completely healthy. I've talked about that before and don't explain again.
As a result, I am now a family man and I have a number of hobbies (business) that keep me busy every day. The agreement is that I don't have to earn, but can earn. This gives me the freedom to arrange things that are good for our old age. I have liberties and can raise our child myself. I think the latter is especially important. In fact, we have reversed the tasks a bit old-fashioned. And we both like it fine. I have to tell you that sometimes it is difficult, because actually I would also like to generate more income. I just have to respect the situation. The environment apparently has some difficulty with that, but I am sorry about that!
How do you make ends meet?
That is a good question, but let me start that we are right, because we have no surcharges and other refunds. We completely make our own beans and that is fine. As little as possible government support. And honestly, you really want to stand on your own two feet? All that pumping around money is a shame. We do, however, keep our costs low. Not the largest internet package, no TV connection, no fixed telephone, not the latest mobile phones with expensive subscriptions and we are economical with gas, water and electricity. We have no debts with banks / government or a lease car. We rent a house and live sober for most people, even though we don't see it that way. Our life is focused on the future without not having lived today.
Don't you want to work?
Yes, but I would not just accept myself. I should be able to work at home when it suits me (due to circumstances) and have to deal with quite a few things that I now work out as a hobby and for the future. What I am doing now is really just preparing for the future, spreading the bed and making sure we can do fun things. Given my situation, I often have to force myself not to do more than I can. And although I don't have a job, I often take too much hay on my fork, because I don't want to be inferior to other people. I have to pay for it with almost nothing anymore. You have to see it as walking. if you can walk 1 kilometer, you should not go 1 kilometer from home, but 500 meters. It is the same with effort and I often go too far. And I have put a little hope in the loss that I do in the hospital every other week. With this I hope that my body recovers and I can work more like an employer for 24 to 32 hours a week. All in all, I am not sitting still now. This blog has now been picked up for the 3rd time, as this blog is due to appear in April. Only then did things come in between that I had not anticipated and which I cannot do much about. Now on the way up and even start an experiment on October 1.
What does your wife think?
Let me put it this way that I have more trouble with this situation than they do. She knows what I am doing and knows what is going on and that gives me a lot of peace. My wife does, of course, like this. Only as I described above do I have more difficulty with the situation than my wife. My wife knows everything about me and therefore also how I feel about life. Everything in terms of health she can see more or less through her work. And the numbers that go with it give a picture of me. Let me put it this way that there are people with the same values who do little to really nothing anymore. For her, it is therefore not an issue that I am a houseman and just go my way. On the contrary, she likes it and she sees what I do. My wife naturally prefers me to be healthy and work, but not just because there is more income, but when I work it means that I am a lot healthier. And she finds that much more important than what people think of it. You do not see it on the outside, but when you add certain things together she just knows that I do pretty well considering my health / circumstances. She thinks I should do what I like and be busy when possible, for myself and our family, because she finds that more important than everything around it.
We deserve the same
This sounds crazy and maybe weird after what you've read above. Earning is something else than actually getting it. With the knowledge I have I can earn just as much or even more than my wife. Only that is not the case for us. In my view, my wife still deserves too little in healthcare as a clinical chemical analyst. The work she does is really undervalued. The collective bargaining negotiations have stalled (amazing!) And are being discontinued a lot in healthcare. They want 5%, but actually it should be 37%, but all this aside. My wife deserves better and we don't have it bad. And our future just looks good. We live today and together take care of tomorrow :-)
Thank you for reading!
Have a very nice summer and I look forward to the beautiful things we have in mind. Live your life and enjoy every moment, because we do that without pointing to other people or having an opinion about them, let each other's value and make something beautiful out of your own life! :-)
Love
Jouke
