Can I complain?

Every day when I wake up I am grateful for who I am and what I have until now. When I look around me, I also become really happy. The alarm goes on for the second time and our daughter comes to lie in between us, which is a big deal.

I have a sweet and kind-hearted woman. My daughter is healthy and always sweet. Together in our house we make the most of it, because we really like it. And now that the shortest days are coming and the holidays are at the door I realize that I am very good. That is one of the things why these days are important, because it gives more than the other days the sense of right.

What I also realize
That not everyone is as good or does not understand what has meant well. And unfortunately in a rich country like the Netherlands, 1.3 million people do not really have it broadly (they fall under the arms). The muppets in the Hague could really do something about that, but I have a heavy head in that. It touches me and at the same time I know that I can not do anything about it on a large scale. And think about doing something on a small scale. All those international collection campaigns are coming out of my mind and would like to see more for ourselves. I see that we are sending a lot of money to Brussels and that there is also a bit of a return, but let's not do that anymore and that money that we are moving to in my idea a dictatorship, because we have no voting rights. Can we sting in ourselves.

I want to talk about it
The EU, because that's me in the face of becoming a thorn ...
You are with it and can not help it, but I do not understand that I have been kicked into it. 1 coin and many different countries with the idea of ​​money, even a small child can think that things can not go well. 1 union, even a small child understands that it simply can not happen, because cultures within the EU are too different. Then the monster that is there for the EU and is money-consuming. And not even talking about the real ridiculous rules that they come up with. What many people do not know is that the growth we have experienced is not an advantage of the EU, because otherwise we would have had it and maybe even better ourselves. There is no good reason to be in the European Union. And if you want to get out, you will only be punished, see England / Brexit. It seems that there are very different interests than the interests of the people living in the EU. Interests that have politics in their grasp and I think it is much worse than we think. The future will of course prove that. I wonder what it costs us to stay in the EU and what it costs us to get out of the EU. The EU has failed and many people know that, but do not want to see it. And besides that we have nothing to say to each other, where does that go? Let's just stop and enter all coins back and with what the value of the Euro is now or at the point of exchange. Let's see what the value of the currencies within the EU now have the Euro as a means of payment, a sort of hard fork. I think we are all scared together with each other. I realized that for 2019 one big wish, because I know with that wish that it will also hurt a lot. A wish I make because I see that in the long term it is better for us and we can keep everything under control. Where I do not have to worry about what they think of crazy rules in the EU.

I wish for 2019 ...
That the Netherlands will become the Netherlands again with its beautiful and crazy things. And where we really are for each other and accept each other as we are and our traditions and celebrations, but also help each other when needed. Where we would really want to do the string through the mailbox, because it is possible. So each other has more confidence and no reason to steal from each other, but really care for each other, together in our Netherlands, because that is what I miss when I was small and unthinking. My desire to have that country again where you stand together and build together to the most beautiful country in the world is my wish. And it is not impossible, but requires action and perseverance. When you live here you are Dutch and you meet the rules we have as the Netherlands, Dutch or not, no distinction, but 1 people who are proud to live on a very small piece of earth and never want to leave, because a piece of paradise is on earth. And furthermore I wish more than 65 million euros (or more) in my bank account to mainly support myself and my family and do nice things in addition to being there for a small group of people who really need it (I determine).

Let my dreams / wishes come true
2019 is the year of change, goals and a mission. I have no good intentions, because I do not believe in that. Even though I want to use the first part of the year to give more time to body and brain. Making changes and telling my personal story 3 times at least every week and at least 3 personal counseling sessions every other day of the week. And not entirely unimportant, buy our house in Gran Canaria (do not tell us). Our garden with bar renew, even bigger and more beautiful! What is also on our bucket list is white beaches and the most beautiful water, visit the Maldives.

How was 2018?
Normally you do it the other way around, but I love being strange ;-)
2018 has been a year of thinking a lot for me and I do not really know my way. Wanted and found, that again. 2018 was the year that I made choices that were sometimes bad, too bad! I became acquainted with growth, but also with sitting where you are. In 2018 I let people go (sometimes with pain in the heart). 2018 was also the year of awareness and understanding. 2018 also had resistance and incomprehension. And 2018 was a year of rest and almost not reading and writing. Understand that getting angry with what you can not change makes no sense. That other people may also take the first step towards your guide, but if they do not, their problem is not yours. People may think and find what they want from them, not from me!
All in all, 2018 was a stable year with lots of learning moments and moments of happiness that no one is taking away from me anymore. 2018 was also the year of the beautiful weather and I fully enjoyed it. If you ask me how 2018 was for me in short, I would say "not much changed, but everything to start well 2019".

What do I actually have a nice life
Do what you like and enjoy the beautiful things around you. I am not always aware of that, but when I have that moment, I am so grateful and realize that I have a very beautiful life. I enjoy every day and every moment. I realize that every second counts, more like before, because I do not have a pause button or rewind option. I know that I have to do it now and I would like to give it to other people. Fighting does not solve anything, but looking into possibilities and leaving your limitations at home is an option. Make the most of your life, because there is no second round or a jump-off, do it now! Give yourself the opportunity to really live and not be dependent on politics or other powers, but give yourself the chance. And now I do that every day and can therefore say "what do I actually have a wonderful life!".

Thank you for reading!

Highly sensitive and over-stimulated?

For the people who read my blogs and have a little knowledge of people I know that I am a sensitive typewriter. Always been and that also explains why I like to help people and often forget about myself.

That is why I want to let my thought go about it now. Many times I have been told that I am highly sensitive. And that is true, because I often feel other people and in the past I could get quite confused. It went even deeper, but that's for another time, if people are going to ask for it, I'm going to treat that too.

What is highly sensitive?
Strange to tell it that way, but in my experience that feels a lot of what you do not see. Perhaps this is the way to explain it: We all have an energy field around us (scientifically proven). This field changes when you are in thought or sad or very happy. Especially the latter I prefer, because if someone really mega happy then I pick it up. It really is not to explain, but know when a negative vibration is to say it just then I feel that in my whole body in whatever state I am myself does not matter. And I have to protect myself against that. When I am out and further throughout the day I remain neutral. In my case, I perceive things more subtly and more intensely. It probably also explains why I am a dreamer according to many people, because an HSPer (Highly Sensitive Person) has that and so do I.

I continue about high sensitivity
There is so much more to say about high sensitivity, but I realize that everything has to be explained about myself about being highly sensitive and over-stimulated. Planning is generally fine, because I'm pretty punctual. Only changing structures and making improvements is therefore difficult again. I stick a lot in where I sit. And thus again dutifully and perfectlyionistically. I am caring and often look at the needs of someone else and can therefore sometimes function less well. And goes much further, because I have chronic headaches and thus also chronic chronic fatigue. And now it is only about being highly sensitive. I have allergies to dogs, cats and lots of trees and plants. And so there are some things to mention that almost daily affect me in my actions.

The beautiful things of my sensitivity
Highly sensitive, I do not like it myself and never even apply it myself. Sjoukje knows and almost nobody else. The advantages are that I often see people through and know what they are feeling, and with that they can tell well what they feel and so prick people. It seldom happens that I am sitting next to it. And if that is the case then it has to do with not being alone with the person it is about. Helping people has really become my thing too. It often helps people and as HSPer it also gives me a good feeling when people leave with a good feeling.

When I am over stimulated
It does not occur much anymore, but when that happens it is in extreme situations. Can proudly say that I can filter and can accept that it is so and close me if necessary. If the stimuli remain, it is how it feels and whether I can handle it. If I can handle it then I will stay and otherwise I will disappear like snow in front of the sun for the people. Fortunately, it happens little more.

If you are highly sensitive
If you type high-sensitive in Google you will encounter a lot of information that is not always good. Teaching yourself not to take everything for granted is not always easy for a highly sensitive person. And there is no HSPer equal in the personality. However, I think that highly sensitive people with their feelers can perform some functions better than "normal" people, but what is normal ;-) Look what your beautiful strengths are and use them, because that is in my view also a gift that not everyone has. Often we do not think of ourselves.

Look for opportunities if you want to
Personally I am for opportunities and see as much as I can in possibilities. Not always easy, but I get more and more fun. No limitations, but possibilities. And that's how I look at the world. And the last one will be that the beginning is easy, because even now I still walk up against a wall. Learning from it and continuing with what you dream of and where you want to stand is my thought afterwards. You can really transform your pitfall and burden into a gift and a quality. No matter how different you feel and whatever you think, everything is possible if you really want it! I am convinced in any case.



Thank you for reading!
Jouke

What is real and what is not?

This may sound crazy, but I've been analyzing myself for weeks why it does not go the way I want it. And questions have been rolled out that have not allowed me to come to an answer.

There is one question really answered and what I have something to. And that was already a thing, because when are you real? I can say out loud that I am real. I do not fake anything or do me better than I am. The question that came therefore was painful, because because I am real, I have the idea that everything does not work as if I really want it. My question is therefore "do you have to be fake to succeed?".

I'm struggling a bit with this
It took years to be honest and sincere to myself and therefore to the outside world. Yet my conclusion has become that it has not brought me any further. All I really learned is that whatever dream I have got nothing from the outside world and I do not. And yet I struggle with the question why I am not standing where I want to stand. Is that will power? or what is connected with it, perseverance or perhaps that I am afraid of the next step? I honestly do not know, but I do not want to stay here either.

A nice example that I want to give
My website adapted to the latest SEO standard that Google imposes on me and my sub-title states that I really like helping people (and that's really true). And everything according to the book made optimal, but fewer visitors and there was less time spent while there was more fun content to find. It seems the more I do my best the worse that it is. Is this to me or is there a higher power that says "we will not do it Harder!". I honestly do not know, but I know that I do not want this. I really get the tendency to do nothing at all, because the more I do the less it seems to be. Writing a blog every day and continuing to raise the household and my daughter seem to me the only solution to function properly and maybe get success, but I do not understand.

Am I truly sincere?
Yes, I'm sure ... And that's why I leave everything I'm doing. My website becomes very simple with the things that I like to do and otherwise it is finished. Worked at home and there are people who are there for me. No more and no less. So I am going to let go of everything and start a simple life. Writing and putting everything at home on the ride. And when it comes to saying that I can speak once, I certainly do so if I can help and guide people from experiences I have gained in the past. And certainly not, in fact, who wants to have one of the domain names I have now (standing at the bottom), I just give away for free, away with it! First come first served and otherwise they will follow a few domain names.

My way the next time
What does not work I get rid of and what I'm going to do is simple. Show that I exist and not much else. I keep writing blogs and remember that doing nothing is also an art. Sure I do not sit completely still, because there is plenty to do at home. I do not go away anymore and do not drink alcohol / alcohol until everything is finished and I am satisfied. And my website that I'm working on is what I still do and how I can be reached, not honor! E-mail and social are online, I will reduce to a minimum. And the books that I have I read a number of times. Trying to answer your own life questions.

Why I do this too
I notice that I have lost a lot of time and do not earn anything with it. My idea behind this is that I can spend it better on the people I love and on which it is mutual. And no more time spent on nonsensical things that finally do not give me anything in any sense of the word. Not everything needs to be delivered, but my time is very expensive and can only be spent once. I never get that time back!

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Thank you for reading!
Jouke

I am going to change concept

Telling from experiences is what I prefer to do, but I notice that there are many things that I try to focus on. And that must be completely different, because it does not work!

Yesterday a lot of thought about how and what I REALLY want. And that was because of my blog from yesterday. Thinking and developing further is the idea behind the new plan. I am going to make a program and want to tell you in the country. I did it before, but I did not know what direction it should go. Now I'm going to write a whole program and have it optimized. So do not want to do everything yourself, but letting go is a bit of a thing.

I want to do everything myself
It can be a good quality, I think, because then you can not blame someone else. I realize very well that you will not get a response if you (in this case me) do something wrong. Knowing and doing it is what I have known for years, but have not changed. All monkeys and bears on the road, because yes such a person must also be paid and if I can not, because then? While I thought in possibilities. Strange but real! Doing everything yourself is no longer an option if I want to continue. Take a risk and have people work for me or if I am put in a straitjacket. Everything is only feeling and has nothing to do with my knowledge. I do not doubt about my knowledge and intent for a second, because that's just right. Have confidence in the future with people who help me. Well, I really have to believe it and do not want to do everything myself anymore.

My personal story
In general terms, many people know my story quite well, but the backgrounds and my experiences are a different story, because I have never shared them. By making me vulnerable, I notice that my ego has become smaller and that I am not just going for material. In the personal story I will tell you more about backgrounds and why my route was as it has been walked. The intention is to reach people who do not fall into the same pitfalls as I do and want to learn from someone who is an experienced expert there. Having had and surviving many pitfalls, but living from a pitfall to a pitfall is also a regular life. That is true until your body says to here and no further and then? From negation to burnout to heavily overstressed to eventually chronic headaches was the result of earning money, but not a penny that came in. I want to let this and everything pass by in an approximately hour-long story with a message. Not only about myself, but about everything around me. From private to business with a message that becomes very clear after having heard my personal story.

It is not pathetic, certainly not!
My school was sometimes intense and very often my surroundings did not understand me either. Persevering and believing in what you do has always been my attitude. Sometimes you adjust and sometimes you stop with something and sometimes you succeed. At least that was my thought. Now I want to use my pure intentions to tell my story. I want everyone to do what he or she wants to do in his or her life. In it I want to be the missing link. This link can help you further and make you think. My story is an extension and at the same time my mission to help people become happy and successful in what they love to do. Actually, it has nothing to do with me, because it's all about you! My question to you is therefore "What is your own contribution to a more beautiful life?". In this I only want to be the messenger who does his story, because afterwards it is up to you what you do with the message. I have not been pathetic, because I chose it myself every time. Everything that came my way had to go under to get the realization that what I did did not work.

Do what feels right
I really made it my mission now and continue writing the blog and still make videos and use it to make the world a bit more beautiful for us all. It feels good and the concept is changed to more parts and more visible. This blog is part of that. Also come to tell and convey my message, because what I tell you do not learn at school, even though I think it should. My message is to get to know yourself and to get what you want. There is so much more than you know. And to convey that is the intention I made for myself last night.

What now?
I am going to start the new way by first putting everything down on paper myself, because I want this and have wasted years by not having a REAL focus. A learning moment when the penny finally came to me, but still I am grateful for what I have experienced and will experience, because I can share that and make the message even clearer for you. So do not be surprised to see that you have not heard or read anything from me for a while, because I immerse myself completely in my mission that will also touch you.

An intention
No, this is not an intention, but a mission that has been clear for years, but did not dare to say aloud and really do it. Every time it comes back to me and it feels good. This is not an intention, but a mission that I do not stop, because this makes me really happy, helping other people to become happy and to contribute to finding their way. An intense message that gives you thought-provoking support with a lot of content that I'm going to make. I'm going to work with pen and paper from today.

My life goal has become
Tell and reach as many people as possible who want to live life. And the dot on the horizon is that when I'm old and lying on my deathbed with a big smile on my face die, because that means that I'm proud of myself and have achieved what I wanted to achieve, make people happy and things do that I wanted to do. Every day from now on, that is my intention that I speak to myself and you with all my heart ...

Thank you for reading!

Jouke

It is good as it is

I am in a phase of my life that it is just or that I am in no man's land. It seems like the phase you have to everything is okay and I am who I am. And that is also okay, but quite difficult to find my way.

I have decided not to have anything at all and to be allowed to do everything. It gives peace but in me I notice that there is still so much unrest that comes out right now. Also hypersensitive subconscious and wake up of things that keep you busy consciously or unconsciously. You have to imagine that I am on a road where it is good, but now and then there is a bump that you put in place again. And do not want to turn everything off, difficult and yet I'm going to do it.


The inspiration
I listen a lot and I get things out again. And a good example at the moment is the breakdown of the Hawaii bar I built in times of sadness and poverty with things I had lying down. Only a lot of things need to be replaced. And breaking down is the best solution, because you can also proceed to the next. There is now a source of inspiration that I use, because you have to clean up before you can start something new. A pond that is always in motion remains cloudy and a pond that gives you the chance to become clear becomes clear over time, but give it peace. Actually quite simple, but in reality I fight with it and why? No idea, because it is good as it is or when I can not change anything, I have to let go.


Letting go is so intense
After I realized that I can not and do not want to change anyone, I suddenly realized that letting go is best. When the weather comes your way, it's okay. I notice that for many people it is not normal, but should I be annoyed? I do not feel like it. Just like the feeling that it comes from one side. And then it is for me that letting go is the method that works, because I do not want to experience stress to those that I can not change. Letting go is not easy and even notice at this moment. Somewhere bad for fighting and you see that your fighting has not done anything. And then release is mega intense. I also woke up there last night and woke up with thoughts that I can not place and / or do not want. The feeling that it leaves behind is the feeling that you have just seen something bad happening and are shocked. I always woke up that feeling in your body and with the writing of this blog I drop. And that is a good reason to fix my thought and take rest and rest, but it is good as it is, it may be there and give it space to find it's way.


Being spiritual
Perhaps it is useful that I first explain what it means for me to be spiritual. I am not a hover bitch or whatever you want to call it, because I do not like that. Because of the processes that I have gone through, every time I notice the same, rest is being allowed to work for me. Like letting go of what you can not change. In the beginning it hurts, but when you're through it, it's okay. That's how I experience it. And most people call that spiritual. For me it does not matter how it is described. What I do know is that applying some things quite well helps me. No incentives or anything else. And I want to take that a step further. Phone more often and e-mail and internet more often left behind and really nothing, only myself.


Is it a belief or sect?
No, it is not a belief or sect, but a perception of myself. A belief does not feel right for me and therefore I also let go, because it is a belief. And a sect is with several people and I do as it feels good for me. I am who I am who has his ego and lets everything come and go. I think that the way I am walking now is a way that can change at any moment. Switch from frequency to another wavelength. We all consist of vibration and that vibration changes as you grow or change your life. Here you also attract people. And you've probably experienced that it feels good to a person or very bad. There is a click or not. Then the waves / vibrations are not aligned. Everything you put under the microscope and enlarges it has vibration, moves.


Ready to grow
At this moment I am at a point where I must and can break through. May sound crazy, but I feel it in everything. I think it is a matter of time and patience. And until that time, I watch, read and listen very much. Save what feels good and let go where I can not change anything, it is good as it is.


Thank you for reading!

I am leaving Lemmer and the Netherlands

Many cheers ...
But without fooling I leave for the sunny Gran Canaria to find energy and peace. Here in the Netherlands we have everything and what I really miss is the real freedom, but also the sun that charges me in the winter.

I see people just falling under pressure and stress and that gives me a lot of worries. I do not want that anymore. In this blog I will explain how the fork is in the stalk and tell me my thinking about life looks like. And if you can not find it, that's fine too, because happiness is in yourself and the choices you make.

This is nothing new
You tell it more often and when are you really going? Chances are that you rightly think so if you follow my blogs or read regularly. And you're right, because I've been calling it for ages, but without a clear date or something that looks like it. So it's not news if you look at it like that, but now some things have changed in my head. A good example of this is if I am unhappy, I can not make someone else happy. And I'm not saying that I'm unhappy, on the contrary, even. Only my motives to stay in the Netherlands are minimized and more concrete. And maybe choose a little more for what I want and not let it depend on what someone else wants or wants.

Excited too soon
It is not that I leave within a week. In fact, I have a few anchors that I still want to remove or have to be from my life before I leave. It sounds a bit heavy, but it means well. To clean up my mess that is still in my head about what I do not want to take as a ballast. I have placed my ideal image next to me and still have some things that I want to have arranged. So I have not left ...

Arrange house
You can not stand at the top of the stairs if you have not walked all the steps. You understand that arranging a house is one of the things that you should arrange well. And so make my Spanish better together with the rules there. I am going to live in the interior and not in a seaside resort at first. Of course this has a reason, because I want to create peace in my head and therefore want to have as few stimuli as possible. Therefore, more inland.

Speaking about stimuli
You will find stimuli all over the world and after a bit of research it seems that we are in the top 3 here (I did not expect myself). And there is another incentive to go, because we now pay 85% of our gross income on taxes and excise in a month. I am not going to say that we will spend much less elsewhere, but it is a stimulus that I see that almost no one has apparently realized here in the Netherlands. And the Dutch are often complainers. They can do something about it abroad, but here on the internet we really complain most of all. And sometimes I join in and often irritate myself. So also news websites I avoid and actually all the news, but you can not quite get away with it. I find positive and nice news against it too much. And of course I find it terrible when bad things happen, but there is no balance anymore, because we do not tell anyone about the beautiful things. This is such a selection of what stimulates me and I want to let it go.

Want to be myself
I notice in my environment that they still want to exercise influence on me. And I do not want that and in some way a seed is planned that I do not want to have. I have years ago as someone who could do and did and said things that I did not want, if you have suffered from it, sorry! I want to be able and free to be myself at all times. With all my good and bad sides. If you can not deal with that, let me go, because deep down I know that I am a good and kind person. And if that needs to be tinkered, then that's me. And this is an important point, because where I want to live I am embraced for who I am and what I do. Here is my way of life sensitive and there are people who have quite a (stupid) opinion about it, because most people do not even know what I do. So for myself, I do not find myself so weird.

I want to live REALLY
What I will be honest about is that I still can not decide whether or not I want to go without the Internet. On the one hand I want to be without, but on the other hand it is a part of my life. Without it would give a lot of rest and the chance to write a book for example. And then of course also keep in touch with the stragglers where you then again need internet or phone. This is honestly my only dilemma and determination for the choice of where I am going to live. In the morning I can take a breakfast in the sun and gain vitamin D without having to do everything I can see. Nothing has to be done, but everything is allowed to be delicious, that seems to me to be wonderful. And honestly, I do that big and partly if I can. I want to be able to end happily on my deathbed. To die with a smile on my face because I did what I wanted to do. And this step is one step closer and gives me confidence in my future, because I want to have that in my own hands.

Thank you for reading

Jouke

I also make mistakes, fortunately!

Sometimes you can hit yourself in front of your head and ask how you could do it again. Only from desire you can make mistakes is no more than normal and one big school.


Knowledge and desire help me to make mistakes every now and then. No mistakes means that you are not moving forward. And that is where I want to be open and dare to expose myself when it comes to acknowledging mistakes and being able and willing to be yourself. (Here was a sentence that I myself did not even understand and therefore removed, talk about making mistakes). Perhaps being yourself is something you can learn and develop.


Mistakes that really hurt
In the past, I made a mistake by assuming that everyone thought as I think and when you are on a dead end is helped to move on or when you do something wrong to get out in a normal way. . I have been deeply mistaken about not everyone thinking that way. I just make mistakes and I want to fix them left or right, because that's my nature. 1 such a mistake has kept me in check for more than a year and I still found and felt that it was not my fault, but a well-intentioned action. And then there was a year with it, because it ended up with the judge. And that for something that was well-intentioned. In this I had made a mistake, because that has to do with selecting people you want in your area. And that hurt the most and I spent a year wondering how I can judge it better and now it's my first impression to feel good. With a touch of common sense ;-)


Deals with errors
I made costly mistakes and that taught me that money is not important, but very easy. Mistakes that I make I also count myself alone and do not try to shift it to another person. You often see that in the business world and I hate it a bit. If you are responsible for it, you take responsibility and acknowledge that it is so and continue, but learn from it. Deal with your mistakes and keep going. Unfortunately, there is still a big taboo on it.


Mistakes is a learning experience
I often see that I still have a lot to learn from myself. And that's nice, because we never get lost. Errors help us and we continue. Because of the infinite list of mistakes that I made, I know how something should not be done. I tell you about that by telling my own story. My life experiences in combination with everything I did business-like. By telling it I want to convey a message. It is not bad that you make mistakes and live your life, because some people die without really having lived. We live in a time where everything needs to be done quickly and burnout among illness number 1. And I think that's different. And I would like to tell you a lot more. I am not a comedian or a comedian, but a storyteller about my own life. Full of exciting stories that are all really happening, but with a little romance and lighting up stupid and beautiful things.



Making mistakes
Do not judge someone else, but go and do what you want to spend your time on and make those mistakes that you have to make to get where you want to go. Focus on that and go for it.


Thank you for reading :-)

Blog: Stop drinking alcohol

Huh? You? Stop? Yes, you read that right! I'm going to stop drinking ...
And no, no clickbait to get more readers. And because of the power I put on my Hawaii Bar.


Sometimes you have to make choices in life and I want to completely focus on personal / business growth and helping people. Sharpen my goals and take real action on them. I read a lot and come to the conclusion that I drink too much. And therefore also a blog about how and why I actually stop. In addition, I do not stop with a term, but with a goal. Goal achieved means that I can drink from myself again.


What do you do to yourself?
The question I received last time I will now get again, but then it was only 40 days. For the sake of convenience, I assume that my goals will not be achieved within 40 days and that way the challenge will be slightly greater. By giving myself focus and putting the importance of a number of things at the top of my list, drinking is a big distraction to achieve these things and to have focus.


And I continue ...
After I am used to drinking no more alcohol I still take a big step, a step that goes against everything, but I think it is necessary to move on, to reduce meat. Who really knows me will have doubts here. I believe that we do not have certain teeth for nothing and people are a meat eater. That is why I do not stop with it, but I am going to reduce at least 50 to 75%. Maybe I like it too. And in addition, to adjust my daily ritual considerably.


The bar in the sale
I have a Hawaii bar with all the trimmings and it is already on sale. It is a choice to sell it, because I want to live a different life as you can read above. Sometimes you have to make decisions to get further. And we go much further, because I want to save money. And I will do that by looking at what I have and what I use. This simple calculation should give me something and thus take a different and special path. I will also speed up the sale of the domain names (far too cheap and below the market value) because I want to get focus and achieve goals. And everything that gives distraction must therefore also say goodbye.


There you have it...
You start with one thing and go for more! I make these choices on my feelings and my goals. What feels good and what do I really want. And that bullet is now through the church. And that is also the reason I am writing this, because I want to continue and enjoy what I do.


My health
Equally very honest ... I am 15 Kg too heavy according to the norm. I think that a norm is not based on a person, but a direction. So it is bull-shit that we feel better and live better. Feeling good is something else that fits well with the norm. I also want to finish 10 Kg and will also happen and not on January 1, 2019. My goal is to have this achieved on or for my birthday next year, 2019.


Living and letting life has always been my standard and everyone wants the best. Today I write this with a bit of motivation to be able to function better later on and to really achieve goals. To be and to feel more positive and happier. Create more liberties and do more with my time. I also realize more and more that I have to do it between now and my death. From birth to now has been and are things that I am not proud of, but also things that I am very proud of. I have "let" people go and let people go. And that is not because of them, but I do not feel comfortable anymore and did not make me happy even though I thought it would work. The realization that you can not make anyone happy if you are not yourself was a step in that. From now until 1 October, prepare and record everything and then go with that banana ...



Thank you for reading!!!


Jouke

Failure, how often has it happened to me?

Everyone makes mistakes and that is undeniable. Only when it is in the business area is it in the Netherlands something you should be ashamed of, many people say ...

Let me be clear that failure is something that belongs to life and whether it is private or business, it is learning processes. No more and no less. If you do not fail, you also learn nothing is my position. I regularly fail and that is good, because then I learned something again. I have also had several times that the sheet has been pulled over my ears. Business failure is apparently not allowed in the Netherlands. And if you look across the lake, America. Then it is good if you fail and continue with your life.

You develop
Sometimes it comes with trial and error. Your life is one large continuous learning process. And that is also your development. In my case, I had to go bankrupt almost 4 times and suffer another 6 times from the mistakes I made. I only wanted to do business in my development. There was also a time that I thought everyone could go into the tree, because I knew it. Well, I've come back from that. It is all part of the development and whether you pick up the mistakes and learn from them. I do not know if I learned anything, but I can name one thing. I want to do something very big or very small. Both do not work, because you have to do something about yourself, your passion. I started in 1998 with the development of internet radio. The passion was there, but no one believed in me and supported me. I felt abandoned. And made mistake on error. I really blamed everyone for my failure. Only in that time I never asked anyone and I did it all myself.

Make choices
We all make choices in our lives and sometimes you have the misfortune that you have made a wrong choice for yourself, but is that also the case? Often the choice is part of your daily life and almost routine. And sometimes choices go wrong. In my view, every mistake is a learning moment. You learn how not to do it. My choices were often quite thought through. An idea, yes, fun! I learned by parking and later to see if I like it so much. The choice I made last (yes sometimes it still happens) is special. I wanted to have a kind of one men show. And what do I buy, a matching domain name! Just like I do not do enough. It is my search for focus and sometimes I just fly out of the corner, which puts other things in jeopardy. I have had ideas, but making choices is and remains a point of attention. Also writing this blog is a point of attention. Do I write or do I not write? The regularity has been out lately, because it did not want to go the way I wanted it. It demilitates very much and to start up again is quite difficult. Actually, I just had to continue continuously. Only then is the chance that it will stand up, even if I like to write. It is a choice I make and I do not know what is right or wrong about my future, but I do want a future in which I grow in all areas such as financial and personal. Making choices is not that easy, but make them, because you always grow.

To fail
Wrong choices often fail, but failure is a wrong word. Because because of that there are people who have a fear of failure, afraid to do something wrong. I also have a bit of trouble with it. See all the monkeys and bears on the road that has not yet been laid out. Our brain is so programmed from prehistoric times, but also by school and our environment. Texts like "would you do that" or "you can not do that" or "do a normal man!" or "Just look for a job". A few that I get hurled to my head like that, unsolicited. That is the basis of failure. I want to hear "you're doing a good job!" or "cool that you're going to do it" or "if I can help you then I like it". Here too I can make a list. We are constantly put in a situation that gives failure. And then it is important that you find the right people. I have difficulty with that myself. Not to contact them, but to ask for help. Not that difficult, but I also do not want to fail before their eyes if they put a lot of time and energy into it. For me this is also a thing, because because it is often done in the past, I often do not dare to ask for real help. I sometimes even get it offered and I do not let anything hear or knock it off. Just because I do not want to disappoint people. Actually weird for someone who wants a lot.

A very nice example
As a 5 year old boy I wanted to own a private island (known for many). It always came back and I was looking for someone who lived and searched in Greece. You have to imagine that I made "drawings" of my island and that always had a few.

A very nice example
As a 5 year old boy I wanted to own a private island (known for many). It always came back and I was looking for someone who lived and searched in Greece. You have to imagine that I made "drawings" of my island and that always had a horse's head. I was strolling along the Greek coast and what did I find to my surprise? The island from which I dreamed and signed since I was five. And now it's in the fridge because I do not get financing around in my way and do not attract the right people. Indeed, 38 million euros of pre-financing is needed. I have found Dutch people in Greece who can really help me, but do not dare to ask them. Everything is round, but I put it in the fridge. The dream is now on a soft spot and can thus ignite again. And do not do anything with it right now. With this example I want to indicate that failure and a learning process are very close together.

I hope to be able to read this once and to say that I have succeeded in my project and that failure has been a thing of the past. And that I do not even understand this way of thinking, because then I have only taken a real step from failing to growing.

Thank you for reading!
Greetings and hug, Jouke