Can I complain?

Every day when I wake up I am grateful for who I am and what I have until now. When I look around me, I also become really happy. The alarm goes on for the second time and our daughter comes to lie in between us, which is a big deal.

I have a sweet and kind-hearted woman. My daughter is healthy and always sweet. Together in our house we make the most of it, because we really like it. And now that the shortest days are coming and the holidays are at the door I realize that I am very good. That is one of the things why these days are important, because it gives more than the other days the sense of right.

What I also realize
That not everyone is as good or does not understand what has meant well. And unfortunately in a rich country like the Netherlands, 1.3 million people do not really have it broadly (they fall under the arms). The muppets in the Hague could really do something about that, but I have a heavy head in that. It touches me and at the same time I know that I can not do anything about it on a large scale. And think about doing something on a small scale. All those international collection campaigns are coming out of my mind and would like to see more for ourselves. I see that we are sending a lot of money to Brussels and that there is also a bit of a return, but let's not do that anymore and that money that we are moving to in my idea a dictatorship, because we have no voting rights. Can we sting in ourselves.

I want to talk about it
The EU, because that's me in the face of becoming a thorn ...
You are with it and can not help it, but I do not understand that I have been kicked into it. 1 coin and many different countries with the idea of ​​money, even a small child can think that things can not go well. 1 union, even a small child understands that it simply can not happen, because cultures within the EU are too different. Then the monster that is there for the EU and is money-consuming. And not even talking about the real ridiculous rules that they come up with. What many people do not know is that the growth we have experienced is not an advantage of the EU, because otherwise we would have had it and maybe even better ourselves. There is no good reason to be in the European Union. And if you want to get out, you will only be punished, see England / Brexit. It seems that there are very different interests than the interests of the people living in the EU. Interests that have politics in their grasp and I think it is much worse than we think. The future will of course prove that. I wonder what it costs us to stay in the EU and what it costs us to get out of the EU. The EU has failed and many people know that, but do not want to see it. And besides that we have nothing to say to each other, where does that go? Let's just stop and enter all coins back and with what the value of the Euro is now or at the point of exchange. Let's see what the value of the currencies within the EU now have the Euro as a means of payment, a sort of hard fork. I think we are all scared together with each other. I realized that for 2019 one big wish, because I know with that wish that it will also hurt a lot. A wish I make because I see that in the long term it is better for us and we can keep everything under control. Where I do not have to worry about what they think of crazy rules in the EU.

I wish for 2019 ...
That the Netherlands will become the Netherlands again with its beautiful and crazy things. And where we really are for each other and accept each other as we are and our traditions and celebrations, but also help each other when needed. Where we would really want to do the string through the mailbox, because it is possible. So each other has more confidence and no reason to steal from each other, but really care for each other, together in our Netherlands, because that is what I miss when I was small and unthinking. My desire to have that country again where you stand together and build together to the most beautiful country in the world is my wish. And it is not impossible, but requires action and perseverance. When you live here you are Dutch and you meet the rules we have as the Netherlands, Dutch or not, no distinction, but 1 people who are proud to live on a very small piece of earth and never want to leave, because a piece of paradise is on earth. And furthermore I wish more than 65 million euros (or more) in my bank account to mainly support myself and my family and do nice things in addition to being there for a small group of people who really need it (I determine).

Let my dreams / wishes come true
2019 is the year of change, goals and a mission. I have no good intentions, because I do not believe in that. Even though I want to use the first part of the year to give more time to body and brain. Making changes and telling my personal story 3 times at least every week and at least 3 personal counseling sessions every other day of the week. And not entirely unimportant, buy our house in Gran Canaria (do not tell us). Our garden with bar renew, even bigger and more beautiful! What is also on our bucket list is white beaches and the most beautiful water, visit the Maldives.

How was 2018?
Normally you do it the other way around, but I love being strange ;-)
2018 has been a year of thinking a lot for me and I do not really know my way. Wanted and found, that again. 2018 was the year that I made choices that were sometimes bad, too bad! I became acquainted with growth, but also with sitting where you are. In 2018 I let people go (sometimes with pain in the heart). 2018 was also the year of awareness and understanding. 2018 also had resistance and incomprehension. And 2018 was a year of rest and almost not reading and writing. Understand that getting angry with what you can not change makes no sense. That other people may also take the first step towards your guide, but if they do not, their problem is not yours. People may think and find what they want from them, not from me!
All in all, 2018 was a stable year with lots of learning moments and moments of happiness that no one is taking away from me anymore. 2018 was also the year of the beautiful weather and I fully enjoyed it. If you ask me how 2018 was for me in short, I would say "not much changed, but everything to start well 2019".

What do I actually have a nice life
Do what you like and enjoy the beautiful things around you. I am not always aware of that, but when I have that moment, I am so grateful and realize that I have a very beautiful life. I enjoy every day and every moment. I realize that every second counts, more like before, because I do not have a pause button or rewind option. I know that I have to do it now and I would like to give it to other people. Fighting does not solve anything, but looking into possibilities and leaving your limitations at home is an option. Make the most of your life, because there is no second round or a jump-off, do it now! Give yourself the opportunity to really live and not be dependent on politics or other powers, but give yourself the chance. And now I do that every day and can therefore say "what do I actually have a wonderful life!".

Thank you for reading!

Highly sensitive and over-stimulated?

For the people who read my blogs and have a little knowledge of people I know that I am a sensitive typewriter. Always been and that also explains why I like to help people and often forget about myself.

That is why I want to let my thought go about it now. Many times I have been told that I am highly sensitive. And that is true, because I often feel other people and in the past I could get quite confused. It went even deeper, but that's for another time, if people are going to ask for it, I'm going to treat that too.

What is highly sensitive?
Strange to tell it that way, but in my experience that feels a lot of what you do not see. Perhaps this is the way to explain it: We all have an energy field around us (scientifically proven). This field changes when you are in thought or sad or very happy. Especially the latter I prefer, because if someone really mega happy then I pick it up. It really is not to explain, but know when a negative vibration is to say it just then I feel that in my whole body in whatever state I am myself does not matter. And I have to protect myself against that. When I am out and further throughout the day I remain neutral. In my case, I perceive things more subtly and more intensely. It probably also explains why I am a dreamer according to many people, because an HSPer (Highly Sensitive Person) has that and so do I.

I continue about high sensitivity
There is so much more to say about high sensitivity, but I realize that everything has to be explained about myself about being highly sensitive and over-stimulated. Planning is generally fine, because I'm pretty punctual. Only changing structures and making improvements is therefore difficult again. I stick a lot in where I sit. And thus again dutifully and perfectlyionistically. I am caring and often look at the needs of someone else and can therefore sometimes function less well. And goes much further, because I have chronic headaches and thus also chronic chronic fatigue. And now it is only about being highly sensitive. I have allergies to dogs, cats and lots of trees and plants. And so there are some things to mention that almost daily affect me in my actions.

The beautiful things of my sensitivity
Highly sensitive, I do not like it myself and never even apply it myself. Sjoukje knows and almost nobody else. The advantages are that I often see people through and know what they are feeling, and with that they can tell well what they feel and so prick people. It seldom happens that I am sitting next to it. And if that is the case then it has to do with not being alone with the person it is about. Helping people has really become my thing too. It often helps people and as HSPer it also gives me a good feeling when people leave with a good feeling.

When I am over stimulated
It does not occur much anymore, but when that happens it is in extreme situations. Can proudly say that I can filter and can accept that it is so and close me if necessary. If the stimuli remain, it is how it feels and whether I can handle it. If I can handle it then I will stay and otherwise I will disappear like snow in front of the sun for the people. Fortunately, it happens little more.

If you are highly sensitive
If you type high-sensitive in Google you will encounter a lot of information that is not always good. Teaching yourself not to take everything for granted is not always easy for a highly sensitive person. And there is no HSPer equal in the personality. However, I think that highly sensitive people with their feelers can perform some functions better than "normal" people, but what is normal ;-) Look what your beautiful strengths are and use them, because that is in my view also a gift that not everyone has. Often we do not think of ourselves.

Look for opportunities if you want to
Personally I am for opportunities and see as much as I can in possibilities. Not always easy, but I get more and more fun. No limitations, but possibilities. And that's how I look at the world. And the last one will be that the beginning is easy, because even now I still walk up against a wall. Learning from it and continuing with what you dream of and where you want to stand is my thought afterwards. You can really transform your pitfall and burden into a gift and a quality. No matter how different you feel and whatever you think, everything is possible if you really want it! I am convinced in any case.



Thank you for reading!
Jouke